family

i have been thinking on my last post and a thought keeps occurring to me,i wanted to share.we have a small house that consists of 3 bedrooms,living room,bathroom and a kitchen.currently my wife is staying in boston to help with her father who is not well,while me and scotty are at home,as billy,friend of scottys just moved out getting his place.each of the bedrooms has their own tv and computer,while the big tv and my computer are in the living room.here is where i,personally get frustrated,not crazy frustrated just like a what the hell is happening frustrated,i know kinda strange but let me explain.i generally am old school,in my mannerisms and family beliefs,such as interaction between members and such,i like to talk,not necessarily ramble,show an interest in the others lives and you know kinda mix it up socially with others in the house. that's one of the reasons i like being in the living room,due to the layout of the house,i am centered and can observe whats going on.i bought this big tv for the wife and also so we could all get together and watch it,never happened.what occurred was as some would say,same ole,same ole,everyone stayed in their own space,coming out only for food and to use the bathroom.now its a small house maybe 1000 sq.ft.,if you push it,so if my wife wanted something from me or one of the boys,she would either yell for us to come to her room,and vice versa.this,i cant help but find this weird and unsettling,here are four people living in the same house and everyone's in their own little world.isolated in the rooms,not even knowing who is home unless i said something.as i stated earlier,i generally stay in the living room,doing whatever,as my wife don't like being bothered while playing catch up on her shows.now i know that we are fortunate that we have the tvs and the computers,but i swear i think we would be better off without the duplication.i would rather bicker over what to watch,and who uses the computer,then deal with the self enforced isolation. instead of a home,it sometimes feels like you are living in a dorm with some friends.everyone apparantly content in their world,with just enough conversation to get their needs fulfilled.to me this is hardly what i envisioned,it is what it is though.now donna has 3 girls that live within 15 miles of us and in todays world all communication,is done through facebook,at least with this house.as their mother is in boston they do ,i gotta laugh here,hahaha, Skype, occasionally,which i will concede is better then a phone call,but not very often.for me this does not make for family unity,which may be what they want,they all are older and living their own lives,but damn it is strange to me.when the girls were younger,and the grandkids also,we used to watch them a lot,and at least they would come  around occasionally.now most of them are in daycare or school,so haven't seen or heard from them since christmas.scotty and i,well every time i see him,i usually try to induce some sort of conversation,and i feel as we are getting in the habit of sharing more about whats going on.it dont take a lot,and it is getting better,i think.i do work nights and i realize that has some to do with things but actually,most are sleeping while i am at work,and waking up when i am getting home.its kinda humorous,my wife and i sometimes talk more now,we make an effort to call each other at least once a day,sometimes twice.the rest,i am simply at a lost, don't understand it,but at the same time, don't want to encroach on the girls lives so don't call.family,what defines it today,are we getting to far from one another,or am i simply different,i have no idea,just not what i expected.my wife,i have to give her credit,pushed me into talking with my mother more often,we had had some issues,but after living in this atmosphere,i actually felt wrong for not being more communicative with her.i call her a couple of times a week,generally with nothing to say,but feel better knowing she knows i was thinking of her.i guess that's it,i just wanted to share my thoughts and put it out there,life goes on and i love being alive,until next time,and yes i am going to la velas tonight,its free,and free is for me,hehehe,talk to you later,sharing the love,me.